“Where’s your school fees-slip?”
“Where’s the shopping-list for the weekend? Mpozi nga you people don’t want to eat some kuku”.
“How much money do you need for your pocket money now?”
“Are you okay up stairs, kweli?”
“You didn’t even graduate…..shut up already! Graduate first and then, you can join us in these meetings”.
“I’m now dictating. You are going to date this guy….because I’ve said so. End of story”.
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Do these quoted statements remind you of something?
Like our parenting ways, in this day and age?
The lack of feeling that comes with these statements?
The exaggerated ambition that comes with making these statements without actually taking a second to consider their impact on the people that they are made to….
How they are repeated and bellowed to us
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If you ask me, I believe they hurt quite a lot
If you ask me, they show that the human they are directed to, isn’t considered or even prioritized, even for a second.
If you ask me, it’s fools that make these statements
If you ask me, these statements are made out of ignorance
If you ask me, these statements carry an attachment to one’s skin colour
If you ask me, these statements are made to prove a point but a very dangerous one
If you ask me, these statements are made to make some people, gathered around, happy
If you ask me, these statements root from what we learned when we were growing up and decided not to change from it, adamantly, even with all this pile of knowledge we carry on our heads
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Turning the tables now, if I were to ask you, what are these statements to you?
Take a second;
And think how much an hour you spend with me, talking and chatting, can do to the future?
And imagine a world where parents and children were inseparable besties?
And picture a world where just a friendly warning from you, about something I was about to do, actually makes me change my mind, at the last minute… it happens, right?
And draw out a dream world, for all children to grow up knowing that a family is the safest institution, there is, in the whole world and that you can feel free to express yourself without having to worry about being ridiculed or beaten sorely or isolated as the black sheep?
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Can you place me above your work?
Can you call me every day just to find out how am doing?
Can you make an effort to just hold me, in your arms, every day?
Can you make me a priority TODAY?
Woah! I was not totally expecting this. And it really made me think.
Aaaahhhhh….I’m glD to hear that. But, I’d love to know, what did you expect? ?❤️?✊?
A lot of these statements are parent statements. We would do better talking to each other in adult mode, but people rarely do unfortunately!
Yyyyyeeeeaaahhhhhhh….so sad, Jo! ?❤️?✊?
I don’t whether in these times parents and children can be inseparable besties! But I do know parents have your back even when they don’t.
Oh yes, Suktara. It’s very possible. It’s only that many of us have made it seemingly impossible for it to happen! ?❤️?✊?
We all need to place more priority in checking on each other and not waiting for the 50-50 reciprocation all the time!!
Hhhhhmmmmmm….alright. If you say so! ?❤️?✊?
Great post …
Keep posting ..
I love to read your content
Aaaahhhhh….thank you, Juna . I’m so glad to hear that! ?❤️?✊?
How ideal would the world be if parent and children everywhere were actually like buddies..its not lack of respect but just more comfort and respect out of comfort and not fear
Yyyyeeeaaahhhhhh….you’re so right on that, Vaibhav! Thank you. ?❤️?✊?
So many life lessons in this on fsmily
Yyyeeeaaahhhhh….indeed! ?❤️?✊?
A unique way of writing. Thank you for taking the time to share this! I love when people get creative when writing. Have a great day!
Ooooohhhhh….I’m glad to hear this, Jasmin! I appreciate so much! ?❤️?✊?
This is beautiful. I agree, it’s much easier to treat your loved ones with immense care than an annoyance or irritation. I try my best to always parent with love!
Aaaawwww…so sweet of you, Stephanie! ?❤️?✊?
Really great post. Very inspiring. Thanks for sharing
Aaaawww….I’m glad to hear that, Debby! Thank you. ?❤️?✊?
For me,family is everything. It will be amazing if every one in the family can be inseparable friends beyond just blood ties
Yyyyeeeaaaahhhhhhh….it would be soooo cool, right, Abiodun? ?❤️??
Everyone benefits from clearer communication and affection. Good post.
Yyyyeessssss, Veltman. No lie on that! ?❤️?✊?
Awesome post, thanks for sharing.
?? you’re welcome, Noemi! ?❤️?✊?
Very inspiring post. I am not a parent yet, but hopefully, someday I will get to be a father. Your post is not just good for parents but for how we treat our friends as well, and everyone. 🙂 Kindness rules!
???? I’m glad to hear that.
I agree so much with what you say here. It seems that we talk nicely to people we don’t even know and are hateful or brusque with the ones we’re supposed to love the most. I’ve always felt my daughter was my bestie, and I’ve never seen children love their mother as much as hers love her. It’s amazing.
???? there isn’t anything like it, is there?
Very interesting to think about. The parent/child bond is very important.
?? and so, is other bonds!
You always post such a thought giving words 🙂
Aaaawwww…thank you for appreciating, Ann!
You took me back in time! I totally agree with you on this. We tend to be super cordial to those we haven’t interacted with and those we have with we put them aside. Even though my daughter is my life, I would never treat her differently.
??? aaawwww…you’re the sweetest!
Parenting and guiding others in life is something that doesn’t come naturally to everyone. Being a leader takes a lot of hard work.
?? you’re very right about that.
this is a very inspiring piece of writing. it would help with clearer communication
???? thank you.
It makes me sad that these statements are still being uttered. They do cause hurt and resentment to the one on the receiving end. As they say, once you’ve said hurtful things, you can never take them back. I talk to my children on an adult level. If I have to tell them “no” it has to be followed by an explanation why it has to be a “no.”
???? you’re the best!
well, this is something to think about. I’d like to be prioritized
?? I’m glad to hear that.