2 days ago, I was on my way to Jinja for a workshop.
A conversation broke out in the car, about the use of DNA these days in Uganda.
Here, we are in a time when so many people are taking DNA tests, in secret, with their children or those children that they think arenβt theirs.
In my mind, this whole conversation struck me as the βuse of the DNA, dysfunctional families and substance abuseβ!
Allow me to shed some light on thisβ¦.
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I want you to picture yourself as a child right now, whose paternity is being highly contested by the person you know as your father due to a few reasons they know best.
You have lived for 17 years now, knowing your Dad as your Daddy or Mama as your Mummy.
From nowhere, you are told by whatβs written on some piece of paper that it is all a lie!
And now, you ask your βparentsβ who your real parent(s) is and they mention a random person you have never known of, your whole life.
How would you feel about that?
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How would you live with that revelation?
How would you choose to cope with that new reality in your life?
Do you think you would regret being born?
Wouldnβt you resort to substance abuse of all sorts of manner since you feel that you arenβt wanted by the people on either end?
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Would you ever look at your parent(s) the same, ever again?
Would you blame the DNA test or science, in this case?
Would your siblings stop being your siblings?
If you are still going to school, would you even speak to any of your classmates about all this?
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Do you agree with the school of thought that says that pursuing these DNA tests will bring us dysfunctional families?
Do you agree with those who say that all children are loved (regardless of who their real parent is) and we donβt need to know about what comes from DNA tests?
Do you also think we here, should brace ourselves for a much bigger volume of young people abusing substances?
I honestly don’t know how I would feel if I found this out. But at the same time, what makes someone a parent/family isn’t always DNA but how we care for each other.
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Wow. I am not sure how I would feel. I would like to think that the people taking care of me regardless of whether they are my mom and dad that I would respect the time, love, and effort they have given me. That said, I would also probably be curious as to where my “real” mom and dad is. I think that’s just human nature.
Maureen | http://www.littlemisscasual.com
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This is a hard but necessary read. It is sad to think of how some folks treat others.
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I absolutely agree with that statement. I am adopted and have no idea who my biological parents are but I am loved. They gave me life.
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This is a harsh reality of many societies but not all societies in the world. And I would totally agree with your point of view.
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What strikes me the most in this post is that you have a TREND of DNA testing. Why? Who gave them that idea? Who made it a trend? Some powerful lab maybe or a pharmaceutical company?
π©π© it was a newsdaily that broke the news here, of a prominent family in this predicament!
I personally know three people who learned they fathered children years and years ago – and had no idea – from DNA testing. In these situations it flipped many worlds upside down. But, in the long run, they all created a version of a family dynamic.
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There are so many questions that can be answered, but also raised, by doing DNA tests. It is interesting how science can work both for us, and against us.
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Our feelings towards someone that we’ve thought of as a parent all our life don’t just go away. Substance abuse certainly wouldn’t be the first thing to turn to.
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I don’t think I could ever discuss that topic. Thankfully, it’s not something I’ll ever have to deal with.
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We have done the DNA test through ancestry and we enjoyed learning about our ancestors and where we’re from. One of our friends did find out that he had a sister that his parents never told him about.
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Your thought-provoking piece delved into the subject matter with great depth, shedding light on different aspects and leaving readers informed.
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I am lucky that I’m not on that kind of situation. For me DNA testing is favorable for men only however it can help you identify your biological parents.
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I am lucky that I’m not on that kind of situation. For me DNA testing is favorable for men only however it can help you identify your biological parents.
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I agree that there is no need to do DNA test if you accept and love your child there is no need for any tests.
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To be honest itβs gonna be hard to be in that situation but Iβm sure there are questions that can be answered. This is a nice article
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It’s thought-provoking to read your article on the impact of DNA tests on families in Uganda. You raise important questions about the emotional and psychological consequences for children involved. It’s crucial to consider the potential effects and support individuals in navigating these complex situations.
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Having never met my biological father, I can understand the feeling of always wondering who your birth parent is. Although, if your caregiver doesn’t share the same DNA as you, you can still spiritually connect to them if you have a caring relationship.
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Our genetic code which forms the DNA is the formula we inherit from our family. Informative, thanks
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I don’t think one needs to give birth to a child to love it as your own. So the parents that nurtured you all these years cannot be any different than blood parents.
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