Hello hello,
How have you been?
We are back with our classes of psychology.
โGratificationโ is what we are going to share about, more!
A simple mention of it in the search engines available will bring up words like “delayed gratification” and or “instant gratification”.
โDelayed gratification isย the ability to postpone an immediate gain in favor of greater and later reward.โ
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That said, I must mention that there is a direct opposite of delayed gratification called โinstant gratificationโ.
With instant gratification, there must be the element of immediate fulfillment of a person’s needs or desires.
The word, โgratificationโ has to do with a pleasurable emotional reaction of happiness in response to a fulfillment of a desire or goal.
In other words, when you work hard at achieving something e.g. learning how to play a musical instrument and it so happens that you have actually learned, then you feel gratified, satisfied or happy with yourself!
When you get to resist the temptation of instant pleasure,
You are holding out in the hope of getting a much better or bigger reward in the future.
As we speak of the future, we can look at it in the short term or in the long term.
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It can be a good thing to delay your gratification and it can be a bad thing to delay your gratification.
Research has it, for example, that children that have been raised in the light of delaying gratification grow up being less distressed by life events and happenings than children who have grown up used to instant gratification.
That is to say, they do not get upset when they do not get what they want or their way; which is a very different case for those used to instant gratification.
On the other hand, delaying gratification can mean starting a battle inside your head and body.
How?
Let me shed some light!
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Human beings are largely wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain.
I meanโฆwho loves to cry all day and pity themselves, when they can be so happy the entire day, huh?
So, when we delay gratification, it is as though we have ordered the brain to feel pain and happiness at the same time!
In the human brain, pain and pleasure are handled by two different sections.
In there, we have something called a โneurotransmitterโ.
The neurotransmitter that seeks pleasure is called the โGamma aminobutyric acidโ also known as โGABAโ.
The GABA is an amino acid that occurs naturally in the body.
Itโs work is to block or inhibit, certain brain signals and decrease activity in your nervous system hence bringing about a calming effect in you.
The neurotransmitter that is in charge of avoiding pain is called the โGlutamateโ.
Glutamate is so much needed to keep your brain and nervous system working properly.
According to Cleveland Clinic, Glutamate plays a major role inย shaping learning and memory.
Glutamate needs to be present at the right concentrations in the right places at the right time.
Itโs truly fascinating how all these processes work within seconds, isnโt it?
Well, that has been our discussion for us today.
See you soon in our next class of psychology.
It can be such a fine line sometimes. I try to teach my boys the middle road. Sometimes it’s good to save things (such as saving money up for something big) but also being able to do what you want now. That’s why my husband and I save first by putting into savings and retirement, then use the rest to travel with our kids.
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I agree with delayed gratification. It makes a reward so much more appealing and warranted. I am teaching my little guy this lesson but the grandparents aren’t helpful! LOL
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I’ve found that instant gratification is almost never the route to take. Anything good usually takes time.
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You’ve given me something to think about for sure. I do think I prefer instant gratification, but delayed can be good too if it’s a surprise.
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This post is just what I needed. I need to focus more on the long term.
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This is such a great post! I am always one for instant gratification. But I need to learn to slowdown and appreciate the little things!
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This is one of the keys to saving and achieving financial freedom. By delaying gratification in shopping and in any situation, you can save money and make better decisions in life.
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It is quite amazing what the body is capable of and how the mind works too. Delayed is a much better option for those that can resist temptation.
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Delayed gratification comes with a lot of benefits. It’s also important to teach our kids this concept.
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It got a little too technical for me towards the end, but I’m a huge player in the delayed gratification game. Gaining the reward of having worked hard for something you want is truly more fulfilling.
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It is so fascinating! My children have a small allowance – and all from very young. Supporting them with delayed gratification is sometimes exhausting but itโs so important (in my view) to start learning young about saving and waiting, and growing food etc.
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I prefer delayed gratification
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Thanks for the share, such an interesting topic!
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very interesting post! i think too many people focus too much on the instant part however I find it more beneficial to shift focus long term
Aaaahhhh….this is lovely to know, Lyosha!
Interesting food for thought about how these two work. It is fun to think about the psychology behind things.
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I agree with you. It can be both ways good and bad. I don’t like to get whatever I want fast but I don’t want to keep fighting for a while to get it haha.
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Loved reading this! Lately Iโm too tired or busy and want to have a โquick fix.โ Definitely something to think about.
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I have a great interest in Psychology and this is such an insightful post. Instant vs Delayed gratification is very well explained. Like they say “The fruit of patience is sweet”.
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I hadn’t put that much thought into delayed and instant gratification before, but I love the way you’ve explained it. I often think delayed is better in most situations, because it usually involves looking at the bigger picture than just that moment, and having a bigger reward through being more patient.
Hihi…I am glad to know that you now do!
I personally prefer delayed gratification because the returns usually are better. Its like eating the food and leaving the meat for last. The meal just feels more euphoric that way. To me atleast.
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Instant gratification has never been the route to take, I know those sometimes I do it I know itโs not always a good thing
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Such an interesting post and I didn’t think of it that way. Anything instant usually never has a good gain in the end so I prefer delayed gratification more.
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Love this breakdown. Yes, I see it all the time with kids who have their wishes acceded to immediately. Quite spoilt, they are, most of them.
Hihi….which turns out to be so sad!
This is really good information for anyone looking to motivate themselves as well as to seek happiness in their life. To achieve both, I have found, requires a balance. We need to focus on seeking delayed gratification to motivate ourselves in working toward our bigger goals. But, at the same time, we can make the journey all that much better with little examples of instant gratification along the way. That’s what I have been actively working towards lately, something that I hadn’t figured out for far too long!
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